· Guilty as charged. Adventures in Dating Online. Jun As the girl who has a geriatric golden retriever, is getting a puppy in a few weeks, and is always the person finding Adventures in Dating: A savvy guide to courtship and communication., by Sean M. Horan, Ph.D. Online dating is a common activity for many single (and married) Americans. Still, just how Online Dating becomes adventure when you bring authenticity and curiosity. Posted Feb 08, SHARE. TWEET. EMAIL. COMMENTS. While online dating and dating apps were AdJoin the Mature Dating Revolution! Find Your Senior Match Online Now. Safe, Secure Dating for Mature Singles. Build Connections & Find Love. Chat Now! AdEveryone Knows Someone Who's Met Online. Join Here, Browse For Free. Everyone Know Someone Who's Met Online. Start Now and Browse for Free ... read more
You are not alone if you are wondering who is really telling the truth and whether you should dare to be yourself. Choose a picture, other than your prom picture, that you really like and present yourself as a person interested in meeting others who might match some aspects of you.
Just a glimpse is far better than an autobiography. For example: Do you love being in the out-of-doors or… prefer museums, know every sports team, enjoy exercising, love food but hate cooking, love laughing …. A profile designed to have universal appeal may bring hundreds of clicks; but that is not necessarily a good thing. Many clicks tend to leave people feeling overwhelmed and faced with the impossible challenge of discerning who is real and who is right for them!
This fits with what has been described by Ben Schwartz, in his book by the same name, as The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less. According to this theory, the more choices we have, the more anxiety, decision fatigue or choice overload we feel.
With too many choices, we are less able to make a decision or feel that the one we finally make is a good one. Even if it takes many rounds, it is far better to have a few people responding to your specific profile than many responding to a generically appealing description. What do you do when you meet someone who likes you more than you like them? There are many wonderful people who struggle with interpersonal relationships because they have been well trained to care for others — at a cost to themselves.
The best response to someone who persists in contacting you, despite your expressed wish not to move on, is to thank them and move on. If that feels like too much, simply stop responding. Recognize That There Will Be Some Deception. The article suggests that there is actually less deception on sites where people are seeking long-term romantic partners — given that the initial emails and conversations eventuate in face-to-face meetings.
According to this report, there is some minor deception found in online dating that is driven by the wish to make a positive first impression.
Women, for example, describe themselves as 8. Men lie by two pounds about weight but men lie more often about height, rounding up a half-inch. The report suggests that a few lie about age. I would add from my discussions with those using online dating that some lie about age because they feel trapped in a profiled age category.
In the study, no one seemed willing to talk openly about politics , but particularly in the present culture, most people are likely to reveal their leanings as conversations unfold. Most people who are not trying to deceive or con reveal their actual age usually not their weight as the conversation unfolds. Be concerned:. Some people believe dating in a pandemic — given the need for social distance, mask-wearing and caution about physical intimacy — offers a litmus test for judgement, patience, enhanced desire as well as space to know and be known before becoming physically involved.
Believe in your own sexual timetable. Give yourself the option of self-reflection as to why, when, degree of mutual desire and space for mutual discussion with the new partner.
Remember, when situations turn out ridiculous or disappointing — you have another interesting life story. Suzanne B. Phillips, Psy. But who we end up becoming and how much we like that person are more in our control than we tend to think they are. Online Dating: From Challenge to Adventure Online dating becomes an adventure when you bring authenticity and curiosity. He's a sweetheart. I want to keep him. Hes strong, bu I loved this book! Hes strong, but not douchy alpha.
He's smart enough to run his business and be passionate about it. He's adorable with the movie lines and being a fun guy. But he's still responsible, despite what Alexa thinks. He's actually living life, but not being a man ho about it either. He knows what he wants. Except her her happiness. So Marshall is the guy that runs the local coffee shop that Alexa goes to. And he has a thing for Alexa. Only problem?
Alexa doesn't seem seem to see it, though she does admit he's good looking, plus her mouth always spouts out things without thinking when he's there. She doesn't see beyond the purple shoes, movie quotes and nerdy awesomeness. And the fact he's younger. And now she wants to bring her Online dates to his coffee shop? There's more to Marshall than what Alexa sees on the surface, if she gives him a chance.
And show her what she's looking for may not be what she needs. Oh and dis i mention Peyton? Best friend ever. Sometimes you need that friend that is telling you the truth, and will show you tough love but will ALWAYS be the shoulder you can cry on. And will eviscerate anyone who will hurt you Apr 02, Stacy J. rated it it was amazing. This is how books should be written. There were so many feelings in this book. There were parts I laughed at, swooned for, cried and was so angry I wanted to throw my kindle across the room.
Alexa is a divorced woman who's whole life runs on numbers. She tried to take the emotions out of things and think critically.
This is where the whole 20 minute date comes into play. She is a woman who thinks as long as she sticks to the plan she will be happy. She is getting upset that men are not playing b This is how books should be written. She is getting upset that men are not playing be her rules.
I really felt bad for her, she is a woman who just wants to be happy, and her kids to be happy but she is just going about it wrong. Marshall is a younger man who has been interested in Alexa since the first day he met her but is rebuffed every time he mentions it. He has to sit and watch her go through these 20 minutes dates and he hates it.
I have to say I LOVED Marshall. He in my mind was the perfect man. He knew when to be an adult but he also knew when to have fun and not take life so seriously.
He was exactly what Alexa needed. He was a genuinely good man that Alexa wasn't giving a chance. I loved the movie quotes and how he was with her kids. There were parts of this book that I was very frustrated with. Alexa wanted to be happy and be this great mom, but her strict regimented rules were making everyone unhappy. As a reader you found joy in her the same time Marshall did and you wanted her to have more of that. Nov 04, Sionna rated it liked it Shelves: romance , sexy-times , contemporary , netgalley.
Online dating is so prevalent nowadays, that I wanted to see what a book would feature it like. Yet, this book doesn't feature online dating too much-- just in the beginning really what I think it should have highlighted was her 20 minute dates since "20 minutes" is a common theme throughout the book. I started off really liking this book. It is cute, we've got some characters with personality and different types of lives with problems, and takes place mostly in a coffee shop.
The thing is, I don't believe in this couple at all. I need more than chemistry during sex to like a couple and that is all they had. No common interests and nothing really changes between them to show they will work better together. While I liked Marshall more of the two, I had big issues with both of them, which I can't really can't get into without potentially spoiling the book. The characters and the romance just didn't have the depth I was hoping for nor did the resolution actually feel like one.
So, I feel like it was easy to read and it wasn't until the end when I realized what was happen that I wanted to stop reading the book. Some people might really like this since it is lighter and sex-heavy, it just ended up not being my kind of book. Nov 17, Elizabeth Neal rated it liked it Shelves: entangled-arc-review , heroine-loved-before , single-or-widowed-parent , heroine-divorced , older-woman. But then she devises a plan, using her favorite coffee shop as the setting, to meet men that garner some interest from her.
Twenty minutes is all she'll need to know if she wants them to be a part of her life. It's the most efficient way to find the love of her life. Marshall, the coffee shop owner, disagrees. He doesn't want her to use his place, and it may, okay, it does, have to do with the fact Alexa has said he's too young to be an option. He refuses to let her throw away what he knows they can have without getting his twenty minutes first.
Alexa knows, at least in her mind, that Marshall isn't the one for her, his age being a factor, but her heart is another matter entirely.
As they begin spending time together, she no longer sees their age difference, but how he makes her feel instead. Can Marshall show Alexa they're meant to be? Will Alexa take a chance on them? Is a HEA possible? One-click now and follow along as two people open their hearts to what could be. Nov 07, Dawn Cunningham Roether rated it liked it Shelves: arc , net-galley. This is a story about a single mother looking for a male figure for her boys. She begins speed dating at the local coffee shop and catches the interest of the owner.
This was a simple contemporary romance story with an HEA. I had a real hard time at the beginning and nearly gave up on the book. I had a hard time with the dialogue and confused as to the town of the characters during conversations.
It wasn't very descriptive and I found myself re This is a story about a single mother looking for a male figure for her boys. It wasn't very descriptive and I found myself rereading the paragraphs once I realized which direction the dialogue was taking. I think with a few tweaks this could be a great read. I was eager to read this story after reading the blurb, and was disappointed once I started it due to the lack of good description.
I will say, I was really counting on this to be more about her actual dating experiences, rather her developing relationship with the coffee shop owner. Cute story. I got feels when Brendan the 13 yo son had a heart to heart talk with his mom. I loved how Marshall the H was so invested in the h, Alexa. Nov 12, Suzette rated it it was amazing. I love that this story is not the typical romance novel.
Alexa is divorced with 3 children and trying to put her life back together. Typography a single mom, her children are her priority which does not leave much time for dating or sex. Coupled with that she has boys who are becoming teenagers and they are a foreign species to her. She decides it is time to find a compatible male to share their li I love that this story is not the typical romance novel.
She decides it is time to find a compatible male to share their lives. Unknown to her Marshall, her barista, has been keeping an eye on her for a while. As her adventures in speed dating begins in his coffee shop he decides to throw his hat in the ring and the fun begins. The story is filled with warmth, laughter and fun. There is plenty of sexy escapades and witty banter. The author explores the dynamics of a older woman dating a younger man, how society views it and the insecurities a woman can face as she struggles with her age.
It is a wonderful story of family and how it can be anything we want it to be. Nov 14, Sandra rated it it was amazing. by Julie Patricka is a funny, romantic book with a happy ending.
Alexa, single mother of three boys is still single after her divorce. Even though she is good looking, successful and a nice person she simply can't find a guy for herself. So she decides to try online dating a chance. Convinced that twenty minutes is more than enough to tell her if someone is right for her, she chooses her favorite cafe for the quick dates to the annoyance of Marshall, a cafe owner and guy who knows he is a perfec by Julie Patricka is a funny, romantic book with a happy ending.
Convinced that twenty minutes is more than enough to tell her if someone is right for her, she chooses her favorite cafe for the quick dates to the annoyance of Marshall, a cafe owner and guy who knows he is a perfect guy for Alexa.
She on the other hand won't give him a chance wrongly believing that being younger than her, he is not responsible enough and not her match. Light and delightful story with lovable characters and many laugh out loud moments. Marshall is a perfect guy, funny with his movie lines and a genuinely good heart, and Peyton a greatest friend and girl can have.
One who will tell you the truth and open you eyes whether you like it or not. Easy to read and steady paced this is a wonderful book about love and second chances. Nov 09, Lita Thomas rated it really liked it. Adventures in Online Dating by Julie Particka is a cute story of Alexa a forty something divorcee and mother or 3 boys.
She is at the point in her life where she feels the boys need a father figure so she comes up with a hair brain scheme to find someone to fill the position. Since her life is numbers she come up with 20 minute speed dating at her favorite coffee shop. The owner Marshall thinks her ideal is crazy but since she makes him an offer he couldn't refuse he let her use his shop. The in Adventures in Online Dating by Julie Particka is a cute story of Alexa a forty something divorcee and mother or 3 boys.
The interaction between the two has always been friendly but Marshall would like more. Alexa doesn't think of Marshall in that way, with the age difference and his maturity level. I really enjoyed their journey to finding each other. A grown folks tale with real life problems. Oh and the sex was hot. This was my first time reading this author and I will be reading other books from her. Nov 11, Bette Hansen rated it really liked it.
This was an entertaining funny, quick read that is perfect for an afternoon escape. Great writing and characters will leave you with a happy feeling. Loved the fun storyline! Alexa is a serious organized single mom of 3 rambunctious boys.
She's worried that her sons need a man's influence on a more consistent basis than they are getting from their father so she sets out on a plan to find a boyfriend via online dating. She meets all her "dates" in a local cafe. Only problem is the cafe owner, Mars This was an entertaining funny, quick read that is perfect for an afternoon escape. Only problem is the cafe owner, Marshall, has had his eye on Alexa for some time now.
Watching all the men coming through the cafe has him going crazy. Alexa won't give him the time of day since he doesn't fit her perfect picture of the man she's looking for. He's younger, dresses casually, and seems to take a laid back view on life. He's determined to show her that he's exactly the kind of man she needs and what fun life could be if she'd give them a chance. Recommended read. Nov 12, Lori rated it really liked it.
What a cute story! I loved Alexa and all her neuroses. She would blurt out whatever popped in her head, had numbers and statistics coming out the wazoo, and plans taking over her life. But she was cute and funny, a refreshing single mom in her early forties. Throw in Marshall, a younger stud who is wise beyond his years and that provides lots of entertainment. I loved how he went for her and pursued her, and then how she kept staying one step ahead.
Definitely a great cat and mouse game. But tog What a cute story! But together they worked and balanced each other out. Her three boys were awesome. I loved how they worked together to show their mom how they felt and wanted her to be happy. She was truly blessed with those three. The epilogue was so sweet and brought a teary smile to my face.
I would love a glimpse into what came right after that scene. I received this book in exchange for an honest review from the publisher through Netgalley.
Nov 12, Sadie Anjum rated it it was amazing. I love a good romance story and Julie Particka's Adventures in Online Dating certainly delivered that and so much more!
The story focuses on Alexa McIntyre, a forty something successful business woman who begins online dating to search for her Mister right! Obsessed with statistics and doing things by the book, she arranges her dates to last between twenty minutes. Alexa sets up base at a local coffee shop owned by the thirty something, "geeky" Marshall Calloway. Marshall secretly crushes on Ale I love a good romance story and Julie Particka's Adventures in Online Dating certainly delivered that and so much more!
Marshall secretly crushes on Alexa so isn't too happy about her using his coffee shop as her dating base. Alexa falls for Marshall, though he's the polar opposite of what she is seeking making the situation extremely difficult between them both.
The chemistry between both characters is electrifying! Particka very cleverly captures the perils of online dating in a fun and light-hearted way. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and definitely recommend it to any reader out there! Nov 09, Lara rated it really liked it · review of another edition Shelves: read This was a fun read by a new-to-me author. I could really relate to Alexa as a woman in her 40s looking for The One, and I adored Marshall because right from the beginning he was a perfect match for Alexa.
Her algorithms even said so! The age difference didn't bother me in the least, and it was nice to see the typical roles reversed. The problems I had with the story were that often times a problem would arise or something happened that Alexa thought was a problem and she just wouldn't say an This was a fun read by a new-to-me author.
The problems I had with the story were that often times a problem would arise or something happened that Alexa thought was a problem and she just wouldn't say anything. Communication was a serious problem for these two love-birds. The other problem I had was that Marshall just didn't seem to change.
Alexa learned to let lose a bit and relax the planning, but did Marshall ever "grow up"? Not really. He kept his frat-boy apartment, he never apologized for leaving her place a mess. Even though he liked her marketing ideas, he never took it upon himself to plan a bit better for the future he claimed he wanted. Still, I loved all the nerdy references, and there were some really heartfelt moments between these two.
I look forward to reading more by this author. I received an Advance Reader Copy from NetGalley and Entangled in exchange for an honest review. AdventuresInOnlineDating NetGalley Feb 01, Leslie Ooten rated it liked it. This one was just okay. I had a hard time getting into the story, the writing didn't capture my attention the way I would have liked. Alexa was a single mom, and she was set in her ways. I wasn't a fan of her "20 minute" rule. I understand instant attraction, but you can't know everything about a person in 20 minutes.
Even after she agrees to go out with Marshall, This one was just okay. Even after she agrees to go out with Marshall, I felt like there were times she treated him like a kid, not an equal. I liked Marshall, and thought he was a good guy, I just didn't buy them as a couple.
This was a first for me from this author, but I would be willing to read her again. I voluntarily reviewed an advanced readers copy of this book.
Nov 01, Delacey rated it really liked it Shelves: ebook , arc. I thought this was a pretty solid read. It had some amusing parts, and was not dramatic. Alexa is a divorcee who is more scarred and scared after her marriage break down than first expected. Our h has come to rely on planning, structure and research in pretty much every aspect of her life. Our H Marshall is on the flip side in not wanting to make lots of long term plans and is viewed as immature by the h.
Alexa starts of on her own version of speed dating and the story roles from there. I really I thought this was a pretty solid read. I really liked the story showed WHY they worked well together, how they complemented each other and brought out the best in each other. Overall, a good story.
Nov 17, Becky rated it really liked it Shelves: contemporary , arc. The title is a bit misleading, though--Alexa spends only about a hot minute--or maybe twenty hot minutes--actually trying her online dating plan. Okay, it's longer than that. But Ms. Particka doesn't spend too much time dwelling on the details of that disaster, and rightly so, before focusing on the growing relationship-like thing between Alexa and Marshall.
It is the catalyst that gets Alexa and Marshall together, though, so there is that--but if you're looking for a blow-by-blow description of failed internet dates, that's not here. And you won't miss it. The few dates we get details of are enough I'm still cringing.
Apparently, online dating is not for the faint of heart. Which explains why I've never gone through with it. Particka did a great job of showing why Alexa didn't think she and Marshall would work--not just the age difference, but her other reasons seemed fairly valid too--and even though I really, really wanted them to be together and not just because we saw Marshall's POV, but that had a lot to do with it it did almost feel as if everything was resolved pretty quickly and easily at the end.
I know, I'm cruel. But I can't help but think Marshall deserved it But that epilogue? Gave me all the feels. OMG, absolutely loved. I hope Ms. Particka writes more for this line! Apr 03, Laura rated it liked it Shelves: arcs. I went into this book thinking I would love it.
The blurb was so interesting and unique. This storyline was interesting and unique, though. Twenty-minute dates is all Alexa needs to figure out if a guy is worth a second date. Marshall could have done better. The saving graces in this boo I went into this book thinking I would love it. The saving graces in this book were Marshall and Brenden. Marshall is funny, successful, and patient.
Brenden was surprisingly insightful for a year-old boy and I loved how he beat his mom at her own game: statistics. Jun 17, Carole Mckee rated it it was amazing. A great thing about this book is how real and in depth the characters are. I personally have never done online dating, but I can imagine it must be quite an experience. Alexa tries it but it isn't working out very well for her.
She is a woman who plans everything and keeps her life neat and tidy. Along comes Marshall, who just seems to wing it when it comes to everything in life. He lives in the "now" rather than the future. As Alexa continues her perfect p!
Goodreads helps you keep track of books you want to read. Want to Read saving…. Want to Read Currently Reading Read. Other editions. Enlarge cover. Error rating book. Refresh and try again. Open Preview See a Problem? Details if other :. Thanks for telling us about the problem. Return to Book Page. Preview — Adventures in Online Dating by Julie Particka. Adventures in Online Dating by Julie Particka Goodreads Author. For Alexa, the answer to everything comes down to numbers. Three sons.
One divorce. One great life except her boys are getting older and they really need a man in their lives. Enter the number twenty, as in after twenty minutes with someone she knows whether or not she wants them in her life. So, she hatches a plan to meet any man who even remotely strikes her interest—f For Alexa, the answer to everything comes down to numbers. So, she hatches a plan to meet any man who even remotely strikes her interest—for a twenty-minute date at her favorite coffee shop.
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Nov 11, Fizza rated it really liked it Shelves: contemporary-romance. It's a great story, romantic, funny, and highly entertaining. Alexa is a single mother raising three sons. She hasn't been able to find love after her divorce and plans to do it now.
That's the thing about her, she plans everything. She wants to control every aspect of her life and hates it when things don't go according to her plans. She is a hard worker and has a successful carrier, she is beautiful and by all accounts should be able to find a good guy. Unfortunately, that's not as easy as see It's a great story, romantic, funny, and highly entertaining.
Unfortunately, that's not as easy as seems. As a final attempt, she decides to try online dating in a new way. She will arrange dates for twenty minutes and if she doesn't like that guy then no point in wasting any more time on him.
But can you really know someone in twenty minutes? Marshall owns a coffee shop. Alexa is his regular customer and now she wants to use his cafe for her experiment. He is so not ok with that, he likes her and hates the thought of her dating some other guy. he can't do anything about it. She is all wrong for him, at least, that's what she thinks simply because he is a few years younger than her.
Maybe he can convince her to give him a chance. But will a relationship between two people who are completely opposite work? Well, find out in this cute story. I definitely recommend this to romance fans.
It's a well-written story with great characters and some swoon-worthy scenes. I received a complimentary copy of this book. flag 3 likes · Like · see review. View 2 comments. Jan 16, Ivy Deluca rated it liked it Shelves: older-woman-younger-man. This was a middle of the road read for me. Do I think they'd have an affair, but seeing them get past her tendency to treat him like a child was a struggle, so in the end, I wasn't completely into their HEA.
But there are some parts of the story that did work and kept me reading, enough that I wouldn't completely out another read by this author. Oct 25, Kim Lowery rated it liked it Shelves: older-heroine-younger-hero , sweet , tearjerker , baby.
The hero gets a fourth star. He was so well written. But despite that the lack was the heroine. She was too robotic. I understand why. And the end was worth sticking with it. There was too much statistics. I never got past the fact that she was using him to the part where she loved him.
She was just brittle throughout. The kids are well The hero gets a fourth star. The kids are well done if not really present for the first two thirds or so. Her best friend is super great at the beginning and end.
The numbers thing was repetitive and not about the romance. The age gap is ten years. The difference was most of her reluctance but without very much analysis. The guy does own his own business and classic car, after all.
flag 1 like · Like · see review. Nov 06, Paula Reid rated it it was amazing. I really enjoyed reading Adventures in Online Dating. Alexa, who likes to plan everything, comes up with the perfect way to streamline her online dating opportunities and find a man worthy of a 1st date without wasting too much of her free time away from her kids.
Marshall, the owner of Alexas favourite coffee shop has been admiring her for years. He sufferingly allows her to I really enjoyed reading Adventures in Online Dating. He sufferingly allows her to use his shop for her experiment. With her plan in place and a crazy, loveable best friend Alexa gets more than she bargains for. Sometimes the best laid plans are better with a coffee and a younger man.
I knocked it off while my granddaughter had her daytime nap Nov 11, FNM rated it really liked it. I went into this book hoping for a fun tongue in cheek sort of romance book, it is my first book by Julie Particka and I was not sure what to expect. Luckily this was exactly the type of book I was looking for! We start of by meeting Alexa a single mum of three who likes to plan her life down to the last detail.
Online Dating becomes adventure when you bring authenticity and curiosity. Posted Feb 08, SHARE. TWEET. EMAIL. COMMENTS. While online dating and dating apps were AdJoin the Mature Dating Revolution! Find Your Senior Match Online Now. Safe, Secure Dating for Mature Singles. Build Connections & Find Love. Chat Now! AdEveryone Knows Someone Who's Met Online. Join Here, Browse For Free. Everyone Know Someone Who's Met Online. Start Now and Browse for Free · Guilty as charged. Adventures in Dating Online. Jun As the girl who has a geriatric golden retriever, is getting a puppy in a few weeks, and is always the person finding Adventures in Dating: A savvy guide to courtship and communication., by Sean M. Horan, Ph.D. Online dating is a common activity for many single (and married) Americans. Still, just how ... read more
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